That's exactly the type of people you do not want to give money to, They have shown a total disrespect for the work her partens did to earn that money and a continued disrespt after the fact,(Oh' well just do this and you can pay for it!-No! When it comes to weddings, the question of how much of the financial burden should be put on the parents of the bride or groom can be a tricky one. The Bored Panda iOS app is live! And his name is Crazy man. However the amount of money that went down the drain after the postponement is insane especially in this financial climate. She's known you're getting married likely for months now. Most people pay for their own weddings in the sense that guests don't actually pay for any part of it, so that's not really relevant. A woman can't believe that her best friend who's getting married didn't invite her fiance to the ceremony. OP is NTA.". Image source: RosieBaker19. Help keep the sub engaging! Therefore, from my side, I'd be having about 35 guests. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. My sister-in-law, who lives on the other side of the country, is upset that we won't pay for her ticket and is now refusing to come to the wedding. 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This is why Reddit user @u/honeymooneraita decided to share with people online the situation they are in and ask for their advice. Frank Geier (pronouns he/him) is a nerd and father of three who recently moved to Alabama. There are so many views that I haven't even considered and you are all right in your own way. Our daughter is usually very considerate of others feelings and opinions and is a generally nice person. NTA. She was very nice and polite and very good with my granddaughter. I'll try to digest every input you lovely people gave me! 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"Only Smart Brides Save Money": Fianc Loses It After Finding Out His Wife-To-Be Spent $400 Of Her Own Money On A Wedding Dress Ieva Gailit and Ilona Balinait In an ideal world, planning a wedding would be a thrill. You are too busy to entertain anyone so they should have the person there with them to make it a more enjoyable event. The specialists revealed that this is not a very common occurrence, adding: The more common scenario is for couples to completely change their minds before the actual planning starts. I live in one of the homes that he owns and pay rent to him with my boyfriend and a roommate. This is true You have to demand the deposit back from whom you payed it to. DesignerMedium9046 51 10m. ._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa{margin-top:8px}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa ._3EpRuHW1VpLFcj-lugsvP_{color:inherit}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa svg._31U86fGhtxsxdGmOUf3KOM{color:inherit;fill:inherit;padding-right:8px}._3Z6MIaeww5ZxzFqWHAEUxa ._2mk9m3mkUAeEGtGQLNCVsJ{font-family:Noto Sans,Arial,sans-serif;font-size:14px;font-weight:400;line-height:18px;color:inherit} Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app. Skip to GTV: 10:00. This sounds like it is months in advance so people like the dj and photographer have plenty of time to find a new gig. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. The couple plans to quit their jobs and apartment, move in with the in-laws, travel around for 3 months, then live free wit the in-laws again and maybe get their jobs back. A lot of users online agreed with the man, stating that she isnt entitled to this money, its seen more as the parents generous offer. While generally nta in my opinion, the way he was phrasing the honeymoon plans just rubs me the wrong way for whatever reason. Then it's the namesake. Or not. Saul Tolstych. We will not publish or share your email address in any way. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Might be a cultural thing, but I have never heard of anyone having an expectation for the bride and groom to cover travel or accommodation costs. AITA? Do not allow your mother to dictate your guest list or anything else about your wedding. Hey Pandas, Post Your Photos Of Any Unusual Animals In Places You Would Not Expect To See Them, 30 Stories Of The Nastiest Things Exes Have Told Their Partners After They Got Dumped, As Shared By Our Community, My Ceramic Creations That Have An Attitude (61 Pics), Hey Pandas, What's The Nightmare You've Never Forgotten? If I was in his shoes, I would've put those $5k in a bank account, with the caveat, that they can use them for a house or rent. I highlighted that I'd prefer we'd invite only family and friends that we're actively communicating and going out with, that I'd rather spend that precious time with people I care most for, rather than being split around tables having to entertain people I rarely even talk to. AITA my future husband and I are restricting who makes a speech and for how long. as long as you are both perfectly okay with her not coming, NTA. NAH, unless of course you try to guilt trip her, then you would be the AH. Sounds like someone who doesn't plan ahead. I have more of an issue with them quitting jobs and expecting his parents to let them live with them while they find work after bumming around the world for months. Privacy Policy. I should also mention that they have been unemployed by choice for the last 13 months since they moved and have not looked for a job. AITA For refusing to get my fianc a birthday present?, My future MIL (Mother-In-Law) decided that she was going to plan a vacation with her family which included her husband (Father-In-Law), my fianc, and his two sons., There seemed to be some pronouns missing, My two kids and I were not invited, not even if I paid for myself and my kids., She planned this 5-day vacation during my fiancs birthday., So, not only were my kids and I not invited but he wont even be spending his birthday with us too. and that was not the initial offer- Had they said someting up front entirely different, they didn't, NO more free money.). Lol. My father is getting remarried, hes almost 58 years old. ago and sh*t all over me and my daughter, making us feel very unwanted., Hes an ex for many reasons but that was a big one. We respect your privacy. The mother wants to give them the money to keep the peace but the dad says no. Background. 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Especially when backing off is not an option? ._1QwShihKKlyRXyQSlqYaWW{height:16px;width:16px;vertical-align:bottom}._2X6EB3ZhEeXCh1eIVA64XM{margin-left:3px}._1jNPl3YUk6zbpLWdjaJT1r{font-size:12px;font-weight:500;line-height:16px;border-radius:2px;display:inline-block;margin-right:5px;overflow:hidden;text-overflow:ellipsis;vertical-align:text-bottom;white-space:pre;word-break:normal;padding:0 4px}._1jNPl3YUk6zbpLWdjaJT1r._39BEcWjOlYi1QGcJil6-yl{padding:0}._2hSecp_zkPm_s5ddV2htoj{font-size:12px;font-weight:500;line-height:16px;border-radius:2px;display:inline-block;margin-right:5px;overflow:hidden;text-overflow:ellipsis;vertical-align:text-bottom;white-space:pre;word-break:normal;margin-left:0;padding:0 4px}._2hSecp_zkPm_s5ddV2htoj._39BEcWjOlYi1QGcJil6-yl{padding:0}._1wzhGvvafQFOWAyA157okr{font-size:12px;font-weight:500;line-height:16px;border-radius:2px;margin-right:5px;overflow:hidden;text-overflow:ellipsis;vertical-align:text-bottom;white-space:pre;word-break:normal;box-sizing:border-box;line-height:14px;padding:0 4px}._3BPVpMSn5b1vb1yTQuqCRH,._1wzhGvvafQFOWAyA157okr{display:inline-block;height:16px}._3BPVpMSn5b1vb1yTQuqCRH{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-body);border-radius:50%;margin-left:5px;text-align:center;width:16px}._2cvySYWkqJfynvXFOpNc5L{height:10px;width:10px}.aJrgrewN9C8x1Fusdx4hh{padding:2px 8px}._1wj6zoMi6hRP5YhJ8nXWXE{font-size:14px;padding:7px 12px}._2VqfzH0dZ9dIl3XWNxs42y{border-radius:20px}._2VqfzH0dZ9dIl3XWNxs42y:hover{opacity:.85}._2VqfzH0dZ9dIl3XWNxs42y:active{transform:scale(.95)} @keyframes ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5{0%{transform:rotate(0deg)}to{transform:rotate(1turn)}}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq{--sizePx:0;font-size:4px;position:relative;text-indent:-9999em;border-radius:50%;border:4px solid var(--newCommunityTheme-bodyTextAlpha20);border-left-color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);transform:translateZ(0);animation:ibDwUVR1CAykturOgqOS5 1.1s linear infinite}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq,._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{width:var(--sizePx);height:var(--sizePx)}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq:after{border-radius:50%}._3LwT7hgGcSjmJ7ng7drAuq._2qr28EeyPvBWAsPKl-KuWN{margin:0 auto} NTA, either she pays or she stays home. I have regretfully declined weddings I couldn't afford to attend. Me and my fiance carefully chose the rules and in total there was about 30 rules. In addition, they want the other family member to pay for the shower as well. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. ._2Gt13AX94UlLxkluAMsZqP{background-position:50%;background-repeat:no-repeat;background-size:contain;position:relative;display:inline-block} My exs motherand his father/stepmother treated me and my daughter like sh*t., Like, fawning over his daughter in front of mine (theyre the same age), buying her special gifts when we were out shopping, talking in glowing terms about his ex-fiance while in my home, and always raving/gushing about his baby mama in front of me., The last Christmas we spent together, his dad/stepmom gave his daughter some great gifts. 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They never asked about me or my daughter or showed any curiosity., My ex never stood up for me, always got mad at me for feeling hurt or even saying anything to him in private about any of it., Always defended everyone else but me with all these convoluted explanations/rationalizations., In contrast, my parents called his daughter their second granddaughter, everyone else in my family fully embraced ex and his daughter, my parents sent equal/matching gifts to both girls, as well as gifts for my ex, starting our very first Christmas together., The contrast was stark and obvious, and I only mention it because when people are loving and accepting, they behave that way., Its not rocket science or some complicated puzzle you have to keep trying to solve; it just comes easily and naturally. We were curious to find out whether situations like this happen often. Others were more concerned about the future. They asked another family member to help plan the shower. To complete the subscription process, please click the link in the email we just sent you. not always. We went to two out of state weddings in less than 6 months. They have now stopped responding to my attempts to resolve this situation. I can't talk about my 'lifestyle' because she doesn't want to . 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Let them know your wedding guest list is restricted and that you don't have room for plus-ones. His family and I don't have a super strong connection and that is because I don't spend much time around them. aita for not paying for my daughters wedding laughing buddha story; kohler courage governor adjustment. Or vice versa. Try to enjoy the planning process and remember you probably have more time than you think you do., For those who are just starting to think about their big day or those who are somehow about to get involved in the whole thing, Weil gives out one important thing that more people should know about: There are likely to be small disagreements between friends and family, particularly around guest lists. So a couple may have originally thought they wanted to have a big wedding with lots of guests but then end up going down the route of eloping. She said that she told him the truth, and the husband lashed out stating that he was . After it's AITA for not getting along with my sister in law? Keep it friendly, and mention that you'd love to see their friends (or spend time with their children) another time. Read this._3K2ydhts9_ES4s9UpcXqBi{display:block;padding:0 16px;width:100%} They can't expect the people back home to cover all those expenses after they chose to move away. We're both financially in a good place, but for the past 3 years I've been earning twice what she makes. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our, Press J to jump to the feed. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Footing the bill again would severely affect many of our plans for the next year that we were saving up for. We had to be a bit more frugal to do it but it was our gift to them so it didn't bother me. Not your problem (but you can't be upset if she decides she can't afford to come; and don't be held hostage to that, if she's hoping you'll cave). ye hq uo. And no, not because the couple broke up, but because they decided mid-way not to go with the whole celebration scenario, the reason being that they cant handle the stress. Be delicate, but don't back down. "She was shocked to hear me say . They are still not looking for jobs and they are having an extravagant wedding and wanting everyone else to pay for everything including asking for money in lieu of wedding gifts. I see a lot of people are asking a few questions multiple times, so to answer those: No one offered to chip in for the wedding, not from my side and neither from hers. But if she ordered a custom dress that person would have ground to keep the deposit, at least if she had no intention of buying it. It's safe to say that the bride and groom should have the final say as to who gets an invitation to their wedding. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. do not pay for anything for your father's wedding!!!! Theres the spouse, kids, friends, parents. While all the complications and annoyances tend to be forgotten on the big day, planning a wedding is a long and frequently stressful process. .ehsOqYO6dxn_Pf9Dzwu37{margin-top:0;overflow:visible}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu{height:24px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu{border-radius:2px}._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:focus,._2pFdCpgBihIaYh9DSMWBIu.uMPgOFYlCc5uvpa2Lbteu:hover{background-color:var(--newRedditTheme-navIconFaded10);outline:none}._38GxRFSqSC-Z2VLi5Xzkjy{color:var(--newCommunityTheme-actionIcon)}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT{border-top:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-metaText);cursor:pointer;padding:8px 16px 8px 8px;text-transform:none}._2DO72U0b_6CUw3msKGrnnT:hover{background-color:#0079d3;border:none;color:var(--newCommunityTheme-body);fill:var(--newCommunityTheme-body)} That being said, on the flipside, if people have to travel then there should also be zero expectation of them coming. Its uncommon to go halfway down the road of planning a certain type of wedding and then going in the opposite direction.. Please enter your email to complete registration. In my free time, I love going to art galleries, exhibitions, concerts or just hanging out in nature with my friends. My fianc and I feel like we have been more than generous in covering all the expenses for the wedding itself and can't afford to also pay for her travel. NTA. Half are now flying to the place we are getting married, and paying for their own plane tickets. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. She is very interested in sustainable fashion and is a perfect companion to go to second-hand shops and antiques for nearly anything: clothes, books or furniture. Judgement_Bot_AITA 1 min. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/TopicLinksContainer.3b33fc17a17cec1345d4_.css.map*/ before contacting the mod team. If sil cant afford it, shes not ta if she doesnt come. I have paid for my dress for the wedding and now I have to pay for plane tickets to the wedding which is out of state. My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks. Run as fast as you can from this relationship and this family. L_Moo_S 27 min. ._3bX7W3J0lU78fp7cayvNxx{max-width:208px;text-align:center} Assuming that you don't weaponize the fact that she misses the wedding. Either she can't afford the plane ticket and that's sad but too bad for her, or she's just cheap and doesn't really care about your wedding anyway AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! I've let her know that we will split the finances percent wise for up to 35 invites from each other's side, and that she'd have to cover entirely the extra guests that'd be coming from her side (any guest above 35). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I decided to go against my father's wishes and not invite all of his cousins' kids to my wedding. We put this canyon fee on our invitations. There's the spouse, kids, friends, parents. They said they would pay for the shower. Yes. Cookie Notice ._3-SW6hQX6gXK9G4FM74obr{display:inline-block;vertical-align:text-bottom;width:16px;height:16px;font-size:16px;line-height:16px} On the other hand, she didn't ask for more than what was remaining. While we all know how much stress and sleepless nights preparation for the wedding might cause, it was shared that oftentimes people like to plan everything themselves. I always say have your wedding wherever you want, but dont expect everyone to travel far to attend. There is ALOT of background info with about 6 - 7 years worth of information but the TLDR version is this: Back in September 2016, my mom matched with a person on an old person dating website. if she cant afford to come, then she cant come. If the planning would have ended with me having more guests than she would've had, then I would've willingly covered entirely the cost of the extra guests coming from my side. Do not discuss anything about wedding planning with your p. Plan this thing with your fianc. At that time we hadn't discussed the rules yet, we just knew it would be very strict. Besides that, her parents want to also invite their own friends and work colleagues, which we've never met. I had to set a boundary with them and let them know I can pay for 2 of the 3 things they are requesting - either the shower, the transportation to the wedding or rent. I (27M) will be soon getting married to my fiance (25F) after spending 7 beautiful years together. We have sent an email to the address you provided with an activation link. First up it's AITA for quitting my husbands 70 year old business? Hey Former Cult Member Pandas, What Made You Figure Out You Were In A Cult? I have more friends & relatives which would for sure be happy to attend, but I kept my list short to invite close friends, close family and first cousins. They want me to use my savings that I have carefully planned out to pay for my college so that I can graduate without debt to pay for the bridal shower and wedding transportation. These expenses are unplanned and more than I am able to afford. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: Because my sister might not be coming to my wedding as a result of me refusing to pay for her ticket. 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